See The 6 Empowering Gifts Of Anger

Saying No And Setting Boundaries

The fire of anger is fierce and generous. From it we access the assertiveness needed to draw the line; to declare that a boundary is crossed or that we are being hurt or harmed. When afraid of this fire we become too watery, too fluid, too wishy-washy; we lack the firmness needed to assert where we begin and end which opens the door for people to take advantage of us.

Maintaining Integrity

Building upon the last point, anger ensures that we stay true to ourselves. Personally, anger is a signal that I am out of integrity. If someone asks me to do something that doesn’t feel right and I agree to it, I often feel angry soon after. My fail-safe anger-guide quickly informs me that I denied what is right for me, that I compromised my personal integrity. The anger is screaming No; it’s telling me I didn’t listen to my intuition.

Entering Conflict

A clear sign of fearing anger is the chronic avoidance of conflict. Conflict is a natural part of life. Try as we might, we can’t dance around it forever. All of us must soon enter its crucible. But it’s harder to do so if we fear anger, for conflict most often demands that we assert ourselves, including our feelings and opinions, which can seem incredibly dangerous if we learned that anger and conflict was unsafe. If we can temper this fear and befriend our anger we may find ourselves entering conflict more willingly and navigating it skillfully. And we’ll reap the benefits hidden in conflict such as growth and

Creativity And Purpose

Some of my best writing comes from an angry response to what I witness or experience: someone crosses a line with me, or I feel angry at how children, animals or Mother Nature are being treated. During these times a clear No surges in me; and then, if I’m lucky, a clear Yes also emerges pointing me towards what to take a stand for. In the No I find the Yes calling. I turn that red-hot primal energy into art, into service.

For many, anger at injustice may call them to advocate, to paint, to start a support group, to confront someone who needs to know the harmful impact they are having. Anger if made conscious and used intentionally can turn passive bystanders

into purposeful leaders. It can be a powerful tool to transform the world.

Allowing Anger In Others

To the extent that we deny anger within, we unconsciously deny it in others. We placate their anger by trying to fix them or make them calm down; we reproach , perceiving their anger as negative; we walk or run away, or simply avoid them altogether. Their anger makes us feel unsafe, just as our own anger does; and so when this healthy emotion arises in others we cannot hold space for it.

Imagine how this influences how we care for children, those little ones who are unbridled in expressing their feelings…

 

Aliveness And Healing

As much as New Ager’s like to think otherwise, it’s not about feeling better, but being better
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In feeling, whether it is anger, sadness or joy, we become more alive. We wake up when the long-captured tiger is freed from its cage and finally gets to roar! We wake when we finally allow ourselves to grieve what we’ve long held tight in our hearts, including our anger. And when anger is felt, followed by the cleansing waters of sadness, space is made for joy and playfulness to shine through. We are liberated into a celebratory state that edifies our spirit.

Anger is an essential emotion for each of us to move through if we are to heal. We all have unresolved trauma, for each of us has lived a life of not fully having our emotional needs met and our boundaries respected. There have been times when we have needed to say or scream No, or to kick and punch in self-defense, and it was not safe to do so. The primal energy could not have its needed movement and expression. It became trapped causing trauma

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